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Preliminary Clarifications to the Trilogy.
Davo
After The First Sex.
После Первого Секса (версия на русском языке)
Soul – 2. Built of large logs, the door is closed, the window shutters are open. Smoke is streaming out of the chimney. (someone’s hygiene notebook, 4th year of university)
We are not talking about the first sex in life, but about the first sex between a specific man and woman.
Let us especially note that we are talking here about normal (a mathematician would say – average) people. Without extreme variants in personal classifications. With an ordinary level of intelligence, with normal universal values and worldview.
What scenario do events usually follow?
A man and a woman are dating. They develop mutual sympathy. They talk a lot, walk together. Thus, GRADUALLY, with some caution, they approach the FIRST sex, to some kind of conditional red line. It doesn’t take them so long to get to the second sex; everything happens much easier and faster. And for the third and further they are easily wound up with half a turn.
Why do most people move towards their first sex with such resistance? After all, both he and she have had sexual experience in the past. After all, everyone knows that the anatomy, physiology, and the whole process are about the same for all people in the world. After all, both he and she want this very sex – they communicate and continue to spend time together. Why not try sex right away at the stage of mutual sympathy?
There is some contradiction in all this. Do you agree?
Let’s try to figure it out. Regarding the issues of love and sex, this is too strong a statement on my part. But still, let’s dig in a bit.
Let’s look at everything through men’s eyes.
(It is also possible from the woman’s side. But, firstly, there is not much difference. Secondly, I am a man after all, and this option will be more convenient for me.)
So, a man became interested in a woman. Of course, his gaze was caught by her curves: the lines of her hips and chest, her flat, elastic stomach, her well-groomed hair, etc.
But he will definitely look into her EYES (precisely “in the eyes”, and not “at the eyes too”). Moreover, he will definitely want to catch her gaze.
For what? He really needs to look into her soul. Very, very necessary! It is absolutely necessary. Without the first intersection of looks, the process will not proceed further. He really needs to know WHAT’S INSIDE.
Why all this for ordinary sex? I don’t know. But for some reason, without looking into the eyes, they most likely won’t get to sex.
Let’s imagine the soul as a HOME. This house has a door (no doubt it does). Most likely there are windows. There are several rooms, including, for sure, a kitchen.
And the man strives to find out what this house is like inside: what rooms, furniture, how everything is furnished, etc. But the door is closed (the door to the house is not opened for everyone). So far, the man can only try to look through the windows.
If you’re lucky, and one window is open, then the man, having gathered the courage (impudence), can stick in his head in the window a little. No more than that.
But after the first sex, the door is opened for him and he is invited inside. It is from this moment that the most important thing begins.
Perhaps the red line (see just above) should be drawn not before the first sex, but immediately after the first sex.
Let’s continue.
A man enters the house. He comes in cautiously. What will he «see» there?
To simplify, let’s consider only 2 options.
The first.
Before opening the door and inviting him in, the house was put in order, everything was cleaned, washed and put everything in its place.
But, stepping inside, the man notices that the front door is solid and reliable, but the hinges creak. Looking around, he notes that the floors are clean, but in the corner of the baseboard there is a narrow strip where the rag did not reach. The wallpaper is beautiful, but in one place at the top, a corner has peeled off and moved away.
A smart man will understand that this place is NOT MEANT FOR HIM.
The second option.
Stepping inside, the man immediately notices that delicious mouth-watering smells are spreading from the kitchen. It turns out that they are trying to do this just for him. And he’s been on the road since early this morning and he’s very hungry.
But before they seat him at the table, SHE push him into the shower with feminine tenderness and feminine charm. And HER persistence is so touching that he gives in to her requests. And for some reason it makes him feel good.
After the shower he is treated to lunch. It doesn’t seem to be anything special, but it seems to him that he only ate so deliciously when he was a child at his mother’s.
Then he is taken to the bedroom and put to bed with clean, fresh linen. On his feet all day, a shower, a tasty lunch and a comfortable bed prove stronger than his will, and he falls asleep contentedly.
After some time, through his sleep, he realizes that SHE is carefully climbing under the blanket towards him. Her naked body presses against him, and he realizes: there is something that is much more valuable and cooler than sex. Now he is sure – this is HIS WOMAN and HIS PLACE is NEXT to her.
Let’s sum it up briefly.
Most likely, people are not afraid of the very first sex, people are afraid of what they will find INSIDE after the first sex.
You can communicate for a long time, “be friends” and gradually get to know each other well – character, scale of values and all other personality criteria.
But the most important thing and the fastest you will find out is AFTER THE FIRST SEX, when the door is opened for you.
